Proverbs on Self

I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is the victory over self......Aristotle

If you wish to succeed in managing and controlling others - Learn to manage and control yourself.....William Boetcker

Never mind what the "people" think of you! They may overestimate or underestimate you! Until they discover your real worth, your success depends mainly upon what you think of yourself and whether you believe in yourself. You can succeed if nobody else believes it; but you will never succeed if you don't believe in yourself........William Boetcker

Every main is the painter and the sculptor of his own life.......John Chrysostom

Before a painter puts a brush to his canvas he sees his picture mentally. It is the mental concept that he externalizes with the help of paint and canvas. If you think of yourself in terms of a painting, what do you see? How do you appear to yourself? Is the picture one you think worth painting? You are what you think you are? You create yourself in the image you hold in your mind. What you are advertises what you think.......Thomas Dreier

We can change our whole life and the attitude of people around us simply by changing ourselves...Rudolf Driekurs

The one person whom it is most necessary to reform is yourself......Ralph Waldo Emerson

Make the most to yourself, for that is all there is to you.........Ralph Waldo Emerson

Before an egg can grow into a chicken, it must first totally cease to be an egg. Each think must lose its original identity before it can be something else. Therefore, before a thing is transformed into something else, it must come to a level of no-thingness........Perle Epstein

What you have outside you counts less than what you have inside you......B.C.Forbes

He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals......Benjamin Franklin

You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give........Kahlil Gibran

Let everyone sweep in front of his own door and the whole world will be clean.......Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings towards other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you are not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others.....Sydney Harris

What lives behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared with what lies within us....Oliver Wendell Holmes

Self-pity is our worst enemy, and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world.....Helen Keller

Just as you are unconsciously influenced by outside advertisement, announcement, and appeal, so you can vitally influence your life from within by auto-suggestion. The first thing each morning, and the last thing each night, suggest to yourself specific ideas that you wish to embody in your character and personality. Address such suggestions to yourself, silently or alound, until they are deeply impressed upon your mind......Grenville Kleiser

We do not deal much in facts when we are contemplating ourselves........Mark Twain

Know Thyself.......Socrates

Romance

Let us talk about views on the oft-spoken topic of Romance
A peek into a person where each one has a stance,
Do we understand it as infatuated trance
Do we understand it as a lifelong dance

Some say it gets represented with a spring in one’s step
Some say it gets represented with a glow on one’s face
Some say it gets represented with a honest joy in one’s speech
Some say it gets represented in one’s daily conduct in life

There are ideas floating about it being a state of mind
There are ideas floating about identifying an ideal find
There are ideas about how relations get inter-twined
There are ideas about how some refuse to get into a bind

The romantic persons are known for their tales of creation
They are said to be open as regards their life’s expression
They are known to enjoy the ride in life as a celebration
They are known to withstand the turbulence in evolution

There are also tales where the relationships turn sour
The love of the doting couple gets dissected thread bare
The emotions get stretched and the association gets shred
They are the sad times when it is said the romance is dead

Then comes the time when it is said there is a return from the dead
The eternal romance with life holds one in good stead
There is a gradual return back to one’s old ways of life
The journey continues and one moves away from moments of strife

Quotes on Speaking

Thought, after all my writing, let me put up some proverbs of wise people spoken over the ages on the topic of "Speaking". Hope you enjoy the various perspectives offered.

What is said is more important than who said it ……Anonymous

Speak softly and sweetly. If your words are soft and sweet, they won’t be as hard to swallow if you have to eat them. ………Anonymous

Why is it that those who have something to say can’t say it, while those who have nothing to say keep saying it? ……..Anonymous

To speak well supposes a habit of attention which shows itself in the thought; by language we learn to think and above all to develop thought. ......Carl Victor De Bonstetten

Speech is the gift of all, but thought of few. …..Cato

If you don’t say anything, you won’t be called upon to repeat it. ……Calvin Coolidge

A man who cannot speak but he judges and reveals himself. With his will, or against his will, he draws his portrait to the eye of others by every word. Every opinion reacts on him who utters it ……Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you say what you think, don’t expect to hear only what you like ….. Malcolm Forbes

Speech is a picture of the mind .….John Ray

Speech is the mirror of the soul; as a man speaks, so he is ..…. Publilius Syrus

Preach not because you have to say something, but because you have something to say …..Richard Whately

Blessed are they who have nothing to say, and who cannot be persuaded to say it …… James Russell Lowell

If nobody spoke unless he head somethin to say, the human race would very soon lose the use of speech........Somerset Maugham

One Month Liberation Plan

If at all you crave and seek Liberation,

Day One, learn to lay a strong foundation,
Day Two, begin to question your association,
Day Three, do no seek affirmation for your motivation,
Day Four, learn to periodically have a re-look at your aspiration
Day Five, stop leading a life of limitation,
Day Six, learn to recharge your emotion
Day Seven, begin the pursuit of dissolution
Day Eight, learn to stop having any much reservation,
Day Nine, believe in your feelings and sensations,
Day Ten, learn to question your perceptions
Day Eleven, begin a new life filled with creative visualization
Day Twelve, contemplate the liberating implication
Day Thirteen, learn to question your notions of separation,
Day Fourteen, still celebrate a life by tolerating your condition
Day Fifteen, start to notice the distinction,
Day Sixteen, start to notice the new resurrection,
Day Seventeen, seek a life of integration,
Day Eighteen, start to realize your own manifestation,
Day Nineteen, understand the process of evolution,
Day Twenty, discover the fundamental perfection,
Day Twenty One, breathe in life into your planned creation,
Day Twenty Two, stop believing in providing justification,
Day Twenty Three, learn to appreciate your personal inclination,
Day Twenty Four, fundamentally stop seeking appreciation,
Day Twenty Five, dissolve your fears by burying hesitation,
Day Twenty Six, periodically reflect and develop your imagination,
Day Twenty Seven, learn to let go of your tensions & frustration,
Day Twenty Eight, sense the change in your new direction,
Day Twenty Nine, observe the blossoms in your new exploration,
Day Thirty, voice the pleasures of your newly developed conditions,
Day Thirty One, spread the message around of your journey into liberation!

Marriage for the Groom

I am now living a new life,
I am now married and have a wife,
I hope to be away from daily strife,
I do wonder whether it is a double-life

It seems very much a close shave,
I do wonder whether I was really naive
I am now riding a high wave,
I get the feeling that I am now finally brave,

The search for meaning is still on
The ultimate high is yet to be born
I wonder the reason of blowing the horn,
I now realize the essence of rose on top of a thorn,

There are times when I reflect a glow,
There are moments that strike a blow,
There are instances when life seems hollow,
I now realize that the journey is a constant flow.

Life presents a mix of various alloys,
As it leads one steadily into its well designed ploy,
One takes time to play around with the earthly toy
But steadily don't feel coy as we experience the feelings full of joy

The lullaby of the music blows in my ears,
It blows out the fuse of any inherent fears,
There are times when I have a drop of tear,
But the difference is that it is one full of love and cheer!

Money n Honey

There are times when money so very tastes like honey
There are times when deals in money albeit are not very funny,
There are times when earning money seems like an eternal journey,
There are times when earning money requires you to be very thorny,

But there are times, when money falls in your lap
When you do not at all have to face any energy sap
When there are others who are willing to handle the crap,
When the world seems to go around and you are free out of the trap!

That is what the world calls dame luck,
To some it sucks, others it ducks,
Some seem to know the art of pluck,
Some others just feel completely stuck,

Life offers situations that have a start,
One needs to decide when to shoot the dart,
The choices impact whether one pulls/pushes the cart
The outcomes have a direct impact on the heart

There are times when one exercise a choice to part,
There are times when one stops and prefers to savor the tart,
The science to the process is what experts call art,
The ones who adapt end up getting an upstart!

The words of wisdom as mentioned by the wise old seer,
Know not fear, even when thy feel lost when no one is near,
In the face of those who constantly jeer when they themselves are not very clear,
Comprehend the tricks of the trade to set sail the ship that you steer!

Investment

Some view life as an eternal compulsion of a journey,
Their perception clouds the experience as being rosy or thorny,
They experience the journey to be both an oasis and a mirage,
The state of mind tests and decides the nerves of the entourage

Some view life as a roaring gun that needs a periodic blaze,
They need no advice as they compulsively exist in a craze,
They enter and exit life as in a creative maze,
The experience enriches them or leaves them in a daze

Some view life as an eternal quest,
Some decide to live it in a jest, others fail to scratch the surface of the crest,
Some focus on developing their nest, others fear the return to the dust,
Self experiences prepares them for the ride into the unknown that is known to test,

Some view life as an eternal investment,
They invest wisely every moment, and remain ever alert and present,
They prefer to be all consistent and do not believe in divestment
They enjoy fulfillment and experience enlightenment

The returns on life have an upside and a downside,
The risks taken in life create an inroad or puts your on the road
The value on life is either self perceived or market determined,
The tricks in the trade are to keep it either clueless, remain leveraged or balanced.

Born Again

People are born in every age

Some prefer to live in their own mental cage,
Some prefer to establish new thoughts that are a rage,

Some prefer to hide behind a conditioned image,
Some prefer to leave behind their inherited baggage,

Some prefer to board the established carriage,
Some prefer to question the perceived mirage,

Some prefer to indulge and leave behind carnage,
Some prefer to reflect and are perceived as a sage,

Some prefer to live their lives only for a wage,
Some question the inherited wise old adage,

Some prefer to go through life and get lost in the maze,
Some also leave behind their thoughts on a page,

People are born in every age,
People are born in every age.

Lasting Thoughts

When you see a person, who is old and sick,
Do you give yourself a kick, or do your eyes go for an unmindful flick,
In the current fast paced age, when every moment goes for a tick,
In the craze of the mouse, that just needs a click,

When you see a person, who is old and sick,
Are you one of the persons of a pick,
Who lives on the thoughts that have depth and genuine stick,
Who thinks of the person whose time does not tick

The person’s life has come to a standstill,
But he also had lived a life on the frills,
He now requires the courage of a person not meek,
The able support of one, who trembles not as a twig that queaks,

The understanding of one, who lends the courage to standby,
The simple pleasures which they now seek,
Lending an ear, acting as a seer,
Justifying the relationship of the near and the Dear!

Creativity

What is the definition of this Creativity?

Is it just the end of inactivity through overcoming passivity,
Is it the end of persistent negativity through absorbing positivity,
Is it the start of a new paradigm of a powerful simplicity,
Is it the self-realization of one’s own intrinsic unending capacity,

Is it the re-evaluation of one’s life through encouraging ingenuity,
Is it the gradual manifestation of a new era of unending originality,
Is it the pursuit of informality by leaving behind the air of formality,
Is it no longer restricting oneself to constant monitoring of profitability,

Is it no longer conditioning oneself to a constant process of hyperactivity,
Is it encouraging probability through coming out of the zones of predictability,
Is it no longer judging oneself through the tools of subjectivity and objectivity,
Is it evaluating new possibilities by no longer constraining oneself by feasibility.

Is it the understanding of one’s own priority through constructive criticality,
Is it setting new standards of productivity by seizing every opportunity,
Is it no longer looking at sequentality even in times of adversity,
Is it just coming out your own conditioned captivity and just create and be witty!

One Life to Live

It is all about what some say living a life of style
To live a life of one's choice, some may take a while
There are those who constantly prefer going the extra mile
There are others who experience life seated by the aisle

Is it about the choice of location, questions the heart
Is it about the choice of vocation, questions the head
Is it about the question of endurance, questions the body
Is it about being tested on your conviction, questions the soul

Is it about the choice between constant stimulus and response
Is it about hearing the voice between action and reaction
Is it about seeking clarity between the vision and decision
Is it about understanding the connection in life's gradual evolution

To some it is a matter of firm conviction, a sense of purpose
To some it is a matter of rooted connection, a sense of identity
To some it is a matter of new world, a sense of creation
To some it is living the experience, a sense of complete freedom!

There is always a pull between the past, present and the future
There is always a resistance to put up and meet the challenge
There is always the inner voice sensing and letting its opinion known,
The choices determine the fruits you enjoy of the seeds that are currently sown!

Life all Alone

Ah, the joys and wonder of a life all alone,
The continuity in pattern between the first and last breath,
The courage to really acknowledge that you stand for self,
The maturity to understand the learning at an early age

The pleasures and pain are now all one
The cause and effect all emanate from the same source
The calmness & distress are but just a hint of emotion
The external manifestation of a life already lived and experienced

The strength to absorb the realities of life
The intensity to withstand and overcome the frailties of life
The realization that you are but what you see
The acceptance of a world with all the inner conflicts

The waves of the sea rise up and withdraw in the embrace
The lull in the mountains when the echo comes no more
The search of meaning into a journey that has survived
The belief that the drive fulfils the commitment to the whole

The sense of serenity in the air just before the rise of the sun
The sense of alignment as the day stirs up the tasks to be done,
The dusk signals the beginning of the lack of light,
The soul forever alert reflects the true source of light

The mind so cool, the life appears so fulfilling
The body so fresh, the life appear so very energizing,
The heart so peaceful, the life appears so very enchanting,
The soul so calm, the life appears to be well balanced

Ah, but the sound of the bell signals the start of the end
It was just a dream, encompassing the life at the seam
The life is laid, so do you dare to step out and come out
The start on a road less traveled, where you bare yourself inside out

The path is set, the needs you determine whether needs to be met
The craving for the delicacies of life, or realizing the power of strife
The eyes open and crave to be shut the heart pushes you to reach out for glut
The push and the pull is all that it takes to move out and conquer your external gut

Bio Diversity

Bio-Diversity

Let us make an honest effort to understand our bio-diversity,
By adopting the attitude of genuine sensitivity,
By making an appeal to one’s own sensibility,
By becoming aware of nature’s vulnerability

By going beyond our own conditioned zones of captivity,
By embracing reality that recognizes no nationality,
By appreciating nature in its rich and varied entirety
By leaving behind a past of cultivated animosity

By making an honest effort to understand unpredictability
By awakening our slumbering receptivity to nature’s ongoing activity
By looking to generate solutions in times of self-created adversity,
By realizing one’s own capacity and manifesting positivity

By evaluating our necessity and re-arranging our priority,
By creating new opportunity and evolving new possibility,
By accepting reality, and acknowledge nature’s mortality,
By overcoming passiveness and encouraging ingenuity,

By sensing instincts that seek to demonstrate criticality,
By seeking to conserve the life-line and preserve vitality,
By going beyond rituals, and looking beyond conditioned mentality,
By adopting originality and live a life of utter simplicity!

Letter to God

My Dear God

Thought of sharing something with you today that I have been thinking about for quite some time. Come to think about it, you must be doing something right on account of which people remember you during times of need. That means you have been able to develop a reputation of being dependable. And that too, you have been consistent over a period of time. It is not that you have been transactional, you believe in developing relationships over a period of time, and have delivered largely to not just meet but exceed people’s expectations. And that truly means you are a high performer who believes in results-orientation.

You seem to be having a vision of how you would like the world to be. That is truly reflected in the broad range of evolutionary changes that you incorporate in the socio-economic and political environment of various locations that make up our world. I am truly surprised as to how do you balance your time in managing the daily operational issues, and also work out strategic interventions.

Guess, you are fairly adept in translating your vision into reality through some gradual interventions and also are willing to take bold steps on the environment front to drive home your message to the world. There sure is one significant advantage that you must be truly enjoying – not having any competitors, but tell me don’t you ever get bored? On second thoughts, having so much work to be done, may not give you the luxury of time to think of boredom, right?

A significant achievement of yours over the ages has been the development of your brand. It is extremely commendable that you have been able to build and position your brand and differentiated the same by responding in a timely manner to various evolutionary developments. Over the ages, there have been countless wise men that have championed your cause, and have reinforced the importance of your role in the wider community and encouraging others to do the same.

I believe that you must be fairly open to change and that is reflected in the countless opportunities that you provide to people to redeem themselves. You do encourage people to question the status quo by encouraging change initiatives when proved necessary. Over the ages it has been proved that you are willing to challenge your own assumptions, and are willing to support people who wish to explore new possibilities and have new beliefs about your own self. You have encouraged people to adopt a range of ideas, and generate creative solutions to radically improve the impact of their evolutionary presence.

Guess, you do have an advantage of seeing the bigger picture, and understanding the interrelationships between complex issues when problem solving. But taking decisions in a timely manner and consistently anticipating the impact of decisions on all stakeholders must not be easy. It must be really tough having to accept the responsibility of all your decisions, since your delegated executors may not always be able to convincingly explain the rationale of some of your pragmatic decisions.

Your deep and insightful understanding of the environment seems to be reflected in the various interventions. It really is a wonder as to how you positively create value for your stakeholders, while balancing the tension between continually seeking and seizing opportunities to accelerate top-line growth in certain locations, and at the same time showing due consideration for costs and risks.

There is no element of doubt, when one looks at your ability to inspire trust within your stakeholders. You have treated people fairly and consistently with dignity and respect and have acted to encourage the development of trust and have justly rewarded those who have selflessly championed your cause and mission.

One thing, that I have never understood is how do you establish performance measures to evaluate the success of your interventions? Am very keen to know as to how do you manage to motivate your key people, and proactively enhance their individual contribution given the fact that you are also known to be empathetic towards poor performers.

You do seem to possess an efficient talent management system, by virtue of which, you are never short of people who are inspired and convey your objectives in a compelling manner that captures the imagination and engages many of us. But as mentioned above, am still keen to know as to how do you manage under-performance. One aspect that I truly appreciate is you creating and providing opportunities for your team to gain visibility and sharing the credit for the success of your vision.

Another aspect that I truly admire is your willingness to back your team to the fullest, and demonstrating the courage in taking tough interventions. You must be taking personal risk and having to accept accountability for all situations, and you have demonstrated an ability to take a stand on principles at all times. Going by today’s standards, it is truly commendable that you are willing to challenge entrenched attitudes and behaviors that impact living a complete existence full of love and peace.

You also seem to be very committed to deliver and demonstrate outstanding service orientation. You are fairly clued into understanding the needs of your target audience, and leverage your network across the globe to offer customized product offerings and services. We do keep hearing of examples where your imaginative customer propositions have enabled you to exceed your follower’s expectations, and only helps them become more loyal customers.

You do use your knowledge of human psychology to expand your follower base, and demonstrate a discerning judgment when using your existing customers to winning new customers. The strong and lasting relationships that your customers share with you are enough proof of your ability to develop tailored solutions as per need and relative significance in terms of priority.



There is not doubt about your capabilities, when it comes to listening attentively and empathizing with your customers. There are situations when frictions, conflicts or disagreements between your stakeholders become evident. However, you do facilitate an environment where there is healthy exchange of ideas and opinions, and people are able to build on each other’s perspectives and reaffirm relationships. It does help that your strong network across the globe helps in achieving the larger objectives.

It has also been observed that you are able to use a broad range of interpersonal styles to match the requirements of any situation, and/or local environment and culture. You do proactively support fairness, and consistently challenge behavior/attitudes that undermine cultural groups or diversity in the larger setting. More importantly, you are able to command attention and engage others when presenting your ideas with passion and conviction. Your enthusiasm plays a key role in shaping and influencing the opinion of all other key stakeholders while reinforcing your credibility through consistently taking decisions that place the universe’s success over local success. Of late, you also seem to be demonstrating an improved awareness of communication and knowledge sharing systems to champion your cause.

You do seem to possess a high level of understanding of self, and do seem to be taking the feedback of your followers and work on the same. Some of the challenging assignments that you have taken up recently further reinforce your ownership of personal development. It is highly noteworthy that you are able to focus on self-development along with attainment of the larger goals that you have outlined to achieve. It is commendable that you not only focus on short-term goals but also have the long term in mind.

One aspect that is beyond dispute is your boundless energy levels, and exceptional levels of drive. Your advocacy of a universe full of love, peace and prosperity, and achieving the same without ignoring the aspects of culture & values does inspire enthusiasm and commitment from your followers. Another aspect that I truly admire is your ability to maintain composure, poise and confidence when dealing with the ambiguous challenges of your followers. You have an appropriately calming influence on your followers in equally demanding and stressful situations.

To summarize your feedback, have written a couplet that you may like to reflect upon for your development plan:

The Universe of yours is just like the lake,
The still waters never reveal the depths in its wake,
Many interpret the universe as shallow and opaque,
Others welcome the necessity of living for its own sake,

There are those who in their journey routinely face a brake,
Others face the same by accepting the condition of give and take,
There are those who need to be woken up with a forceful quake,
Others proactively give themselves a routine shake,
There are those who make it a point to fight for their worldly stake,
Others who are satisfied with their little pieces of cake,
There are those who make an effort to mask their intrinsic spirit that is fake,
Others make the conscious effort to remain spiritually awake,

The challenge is to use your imagination, to manage the multiple situations,
To demonstrate your passion, and commit to your vision,
To enable fusion in alignment with your intended direction,
Enabling a universe of peace, contentment and spirit of compassion.