There are so many thoughts and ideas that occurs when one indulges in self reflection
There are varied emotions one exhibits that range from sadness to complete elation
There are varied desires that one aspires for that reflects your daily beads of perspiration
There are countless memories of the past that one clings onto that leads onto depression
People and situations change over time and one can ill afford to have any set expectation
Each one has unique experiences that may compel them to avoid any societal connection
Many such moments spent in isolation only leads to self created cycles of ongoing frustration
The conscious avoidance of social engagement further reduces one’s levels of motivation
As the wise men have advised the past is buried history and the future is concealed mystery
One needs to literally forget the past and if required cut off relations that enhance your worry
One needs to recognize that one may forget past achievements and only remember failures
One needs to appreciate that good deeds get forgotten but bad memories fail to find a cure
Many a moment one loses self control when one continues to dwell on negative experiences
Many a moment where one could achieve success gets lost due to guilt and self repentance
Many a moment when one could focus on self-mastery gets lost due to remorse and shame
Many a moment persists when one continues to complain about someone to pin down blame
One needs to look at the wonders of the world and the blessings that you are endowed with
One needs to consciously capture the positive emotion that ensures you do not fall in the pit
One needs to demonstrate that the saying what you resist continues to persist is not a myth
One needs to understand that life is not only about perfection where you compete forever to highlight your wit
One can aim for excellence while maintaining your integrity and be clear about your values
One needs to demonstrate the courage to change and stop leading a life without any clue
One needs to have the valour to accept the challenge of being the change that one aspires for
One will eventually discover that life is what you make of it and you are your own saviour
One does not need to wait for the right moment to start planning to lead a life of jubilation
One needs to be aware of whether your daily activities are aligned to your sense of direction
One can surely differentiate moments that fill you with anxiety and ensures your relaxation
One just needs to commit to live a fulfilling life rather than constantly seek external validation
One just needs to focus on continuing to spend time doing activities that give you satisfaction
One’s internal alignment will reflect in your attitude that you demonstrate in self expression
One’s confidence will reflect in your conversations and how you handle social interactions
One may like to consider taking small steps and start with small doses of positive affirmation!
4 comments:
People and situations change over time and one can ill afford to have any set expectation
----As human beings I suspect that we will continue to have expectations of each other. What we have control over is the degree of expectation. With experience and wisdom most people usually get to understand the grim realities of having to come out of the cycle of expectations.
One needs to literally forget the past and if required cut off relations that enhance your worry
---- I am glad to see you pen this. People have a hard time in severing relations that are not worth the emotional energy. It's tough but sometimes that's the best choice for all the parties involved.
Thanks buddy.
One area that I am keen to spend more time mulling over is the support that can be provided when people undergo transitions/challenges of life.
Yes, you are right that with experience people do have to accept the grim realities of life. But my personal view is that there can be a better way to help people overcome difficult moments when they arise, especially since that is the time when people develop expectations of others.
If one were to really objectively make a comment on life, there are some absolute truths and there are some realities that can't be predicted in terms of the time and how it's going to eventually emerge. However, there can be broad guidelines that can be laid to help people rather than just assume that people will cope up and learn their lessons and gain wisdom as anyone else in this world! The current reality is more indicative of every man to himself be it in good times or difficult times! Can we not aspire for a better world?
Have a nice day and look forward to your revert.
You know what Ravi, more often than not, I have found people not even making time to wish people on their birthdays/wedding anniversary or even spend some time during a bereavement. Either one can conclude that people are consciously adapting as per their interpretation of the need of the hour or they are simply not interested to spend time with others. I am a bit skeptical of people making time to support others in times of need/transition as you say.
Yes, but I completely echo what you say that every individual needs to bury the past and move on in his life. Each man handles those sensitive moments differently, and should pleasant memories assist his cause, he may like to rely on the same as an aid to his progress and self mastery.
My 2 cents:
1.) When people undergo challenges/transitions they may NOT necessarily be looking for help but they would definitely want to be LISTENED to.
2.) People need to bring in CHANGES (personality, behavior or otherwise) to come out of these challenges/transitions.
3.) The ones that are aware and are WILLING to make these changes can be HELPED.
4.) People change only when they WANT/DECIDE to irrespective of external help.
5.) A constant endeavor in trying to help the one's that are NOT ready to be helped or UNWILLING to make changes brings friction and pain into the relationship.
6.) Sometimes the one's that are HELPING get so caught up in the act that they are unable to let go.
7.) It's best sometimes to allow individuals to make mistakes, fall and learn at their own pace rather than force ourselves to help them.
8.) "Letting go" (even temporarily) is so therapeutic and is a MUST HAVE for people that want to HELP others.
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