Thursday, July 8, 2010

Parent and Child

There have been moments in the historical past when the societal norm was child marriage
The same in the present raises a furore and people in society consciously let loose their rage
The parent’s early age at the time of marriage and conception of child led to lower age gap
The progress in medical science brings to light a trend of wide disparity and resultant trap

There have been moments in history when parents gave birth to avoid ridicule in society
The current lifestyle trend also admire parents who avoid child birth not lacking empathy
There have been moments in history when parents showed desperation for the male gender
The current trend applauds parents who willingly go in for adoption for the female gender

The lower age gap between parent and child had its share of advantages and concern
The younger parents were more energetic as they learnt the art of parenting on the run
The younger parents were relatively ignorant and may have lacked maturity in taking care
The younger parents while earning their livelihood may have spent less time with their heir

The older parents may have more worldly wisdom that they could share with their child
The older parents may have adequate time and in their concern cast an over-protective shield
The challenges of earning one’s livelihood may be a story that has finally outlived its past
The older parents may be faced with health challenges that may haunt and come to last

The younger parents may be more in tune with current changes that may impact their ward
The older parents may not be abreast of latest updates and find it tricky to decipher the cards
The younger parents in their desire to fulfil unrealistic expectations may even create a divide
The older parents having tasted the true essence of life generally provide a comfortable ride

The children of younger parents may be able to better relate their experiences of joy and glee
The children of older parents may face communication gaps even necessitating fervent pleas
The children of younger parents may better understand their parents present in a majority
The children of older parents may at times feel lost and trapped being present in a minority

The children of younger parents may have pleasant memories of parents playing with them in their childhood
The children of older parents may develop memories of parents recounting their childhood
The children of younger parents may get more exposed to latest trends prevalent in the world
The children of older parents may at times remain ignorant due to low interest in their herd

The children of younger parents may not have had to face constraints on the financial front
The children of older parents may have learnt to be thrifty having possibly faced the brunt
The children of younger parents may not have been much exposed to sickness and ill-health
The children of older parents may have had to take responsibility for their parent’s ill-health

The children of younger parents may have been empowered with higher levels of freedom
The children of older parents may have to take charge that impacted their dreams of stardom
The children of younger parents may have had the time to experiment and live a care-free life
The children of older parents many a times have to daily face a reality that resembles strife

The children of younger parents may have memories of their parents turning grand-parent
The children of older parents may even have no memories of seeing their own grand-parent
The children of younger parents may have their parents who may care for their children
The children of older parents may necessarily have to locate a day-care facility to be on the run

Each man’s experience as a parent or a child is as varied as sugar, spice and salt
There is nothing to say that there is an ideal world where one will never face any jolt
Each man has to determine his needs and aspiration and anticipate all possible complications
As he lives his life he needs to be sensitive yet proactively adapt to avoid being caught in tricky situations!

2 comments:

NUBONIHIVE said...

Nice summation. Would love to hear your thoughts on this based on the cultural context within which such relationships exists. For instance, in the US the Parent- Child relationship more or less comes to a culmination (in terms of Parents responsibilities) as soon as the child reaches mid teens. Also there are several old parents here who are so physically fit that age does not become a barrier for them to indulge their kids in physical activities and have them explore/discover the world.

Nature is smiling said...

Hmmm good suggestion! I would definitely need to spend quality time doing research to come up with some robust findings.

The above observation was made largely keeping the Indian diaspora in mind but should in general be fairly applicable to the larger world at large.

Even within the Indian diaspora, different communities generally exhibit varied patterns regards time of marriage - There are some communities where marriage largely happens once the legal age is attained. There are other communities where the beliefs (may be determined by past experience or occupational trends) whether they first feeel the need to be relatively settled before they even think of marriage. As one of the leading banks says different people, different views!

Cheers.....Ravi